- Posted by Francisco Ramirez
- On October 23, 2017
Attraction is a very powerful tool to use to get what you want if you know the proper way to use it.
People interact with each other on a daily basis, and most times this is because one person needs something from the other. Getting others to do what you want them to do is simple when you know how to do it.
In the business world, for example, you may have a product or service to sell while the other person is looking for such a product. To sell your product or service to them, you will have to convince the other person that he will be satisfied with the services you render according to his needs.
In other words, the way to get anybody to do what you want is to make them want to do it. Trying to get what you want through intimidation or force is asking for trouble. Yes possible but not advisable to use forceful methods, because the results are short-term and can even be disastrous.
So how do you get others to do what you want? Simple. Give them what they want. That is the secret to the attraction. And what is it that people want? Good health, love, and financial security are the basic desires of people.
But there is one important, yet intangible, thing everybody wants more than anything else, and that is to be appreciated. Being appreciated and complimented makes a person feel important. When you feel important, you feel needed and wanted, and this gives you a reason for existing.
So, how do you make someone else feel important? Tell them. Show them. Give appreciation freely, honestly, and without reservation. Saying how appreciative you are for a favor received or a job well done will make the other person feel important and respected.
You may not be able to describe in words how being appreciated makes you feel when you’re the recipient, but you know that what you feel is real and priceless.
To get what you want through attraction, show the other person that – if he does what you want him to do – it will, in turn, make him feel important.
Let’s take charity for example. You want a contribution from a prospective donor. Even before the act of giving itself, the donor expects some form of appreciation from you and this, in turn, will give him a feeling of importance.
But appreciation doesn’t necessarily have to be expressed in words. A smile and a handshake could be sufficient, and they can come from both you and the donor.
The donor shows his feeling of being appreciated, while you show your appreciation for the contribution. A chemistry takes place. Its a feeling both parties would enjoy happening many times over.
So, to get others to do what you want them to, you must give them something first. Make them feel special, important and appreciated.
But, be aware, your feelings must be genuine. You must truly appreciate the person as a fellow human being, and not just because they are doing something for you.
If you can truly feel that the person you are interacting with is important and worthy, and can convey those feelings to that person, you will get them to do what you want them to, and they will feel good about doing it for you.
This is the most powerful way to get what you want through the attraction.